I really won’t even lie…whatever we’ll discuss today is quite sensitive. Like even I don’t understand what am about to talk about. I’m gonna need y’all to help me get it… because… we need facts. Bro, without further ado and with zero judgement, let’s get straight to it.
I’m gonna give a short experience. The year was 20**… if you know what I mean🤧. So this chille was like my best friend and stuff. To me, she was just a friend. But I noticed weird tendencies. Let’s call her Lexy. So Lexy would call me every morning and every night, ask about what I’d eaten for lunch, ask to talk to my siblings, got angry every time I talked to interested MALE potentials.(I defo had to specify and be clear wakurugenzi😂😂😂😂). So I started wondering if dear Lexy was just being an old-school bestie or if it was turning into an actual obsession. And what kind of obsession because wtf? Honey I thought we were both chics… so why the hell am I receiving more calls and texts from you than from my mans? Also, why was I being forced to be accountable to a “best friend” about every single detail of my life. At this point, y’all get worramsaying. Yeah, shit got real… and I wanted out and I couldn’t even walk away from “bestie” without honey causing a scene….end of story.. He who has a brain already gets it. Brooo!! Seems I was in a relationship unawares bana!!!
Anyway let’s talk about the issue at hand. SEXUAL ORIENTATION. I have more questions than I do answers. Regardless, I’ll still speak. Whatever I say is subject to open criticism and correction by the way.
First of all .. is there anyone who’s born gay, or lesbian or bisexual? Is it a change that occurs at puberty. Can someone choose to be a homosexual? Like do you get to choose your sexual orientation? Is it something one can control and change whenever they want to? I got to ask a few questions to some of my legit people. So as we go on, I’ll quote actual statements from actual people experiencing the same. Also, is sexual orientation something that can be suppressed forever? Especially in an African set up where being bisexual or homosexual is a taboo? Also, for the religious people what does the Bible or Qurhan have to say about all these? And of course what do y’all think??? Because ata mimi nachanganyikiwa kidogo🌚.
Is it right to say that Brother Daniel was born gay? That even at birth, given a chance, he’d still be attracted to a Mr George? Is there like a gene for sexual orientation? Help me understand. My thoughts, I really don’t think there’s a “homosexuality-gene” or a “bisexuality gene”. For instance, there’s a clear genetic explanation for dwarfism, albinism, etc, but I know there’s nothing like a “gay- gene”. So this begs the question, what then makes someone gay, lesbian, bisexual or straight?
Is sexual orientation determined at puberty or is it a product of how a child is brought up. For instance, did Omondi become “girl- ish” because he was the only boy and grew up around sisters and a single mother? Or did he interact with so much homosexulity in highschool and university so that he slowly chose to be gay? Also, could it be that Wanjiru started liking girls because everyone kept commenting about her manly voice and tom-boy tendencies? Is it something that gets introduced to someone at a later age or is it how they grow up from childhood? That right there is my question.
I had a Muslim friend who was gay. So he tried hiding it, because if I’m right, society and religion would have judged him brutally. So Moha found a beautiful Muslim lady whom he liked a lot and married. The ceremony was so pompous, expensive, and full of honorables, he thought his sexual tendencies would respect that. The lady was really really fiiiine🔥🔥. So he had no excuse whatsoever. Moha however got himself cheating with a certain Ahmed guy. It got so bad, he confessed to his wife, who could not bear the shame. She took off. In short, the entire village knew that Moha had come out as gay. They didn’t take it well for sure. Sadly, he got rectal cancer, and on his death bed, these were his exact words, “I tried to pray to Allah to take away these feelings for men, severally, every single day. But the feelings got stronger and I gave up trying to change who I am. Please pray for me that Allah may pardon me.“ My question is, can sexual orientation be controlled? Is it that Moha didn’t pray enough? Because of all the people, Moha had everything to lose, a beautiful wife, his reputation, his salvation… y’all feel me? So is it that he was not persistent enough to pray his way into being straight or he just couldn’t control it?
Honeys, what does the Bible have to say on this? Also for my Muslim readers, feel free to enlighten me on whether the Qurhan touches on this issue. For those who don’t ascribe to any form of religion, what do you think about sexual orientation? Help us get some answers.
I really really want to comment on the Science behind sexual orientation. Why some people are straight, others are bi, and others homosexuals. But I’d be lying because even I don’t know shit. There are obviously people who are better equipped to discuss the scientific and mental aspects of sexual orientation. I already normalized accepting that I don’t have enough facts to actually give a legit opinion. That’s why I took time to write this down today, short and all. So y’all could comment and tell us what you think.
My few cents:
People are out here struggling with sexuality. Teenagers especially. There’s a lot of pornography going on and a large percentage of consumers is made up of kids who don’t even know how to deal with life. I really want to put the blame on parents and poor upbringing, but it doesn’t even make sense. Most mothers are busy staying up late, praying fervently that their children may grow up into God fearing and responsible citizens. Most dads are busy trying to provide phones and WiFi for the kids to access online studies. How is this poor parenting? If Jayden only thinks about sex and porn, how is it the government’s fault for sure? At some point, the young people really push the oldies to a corner. Between a rock and a hard place. Because how do you explain a bunch of teenagers shooting porn? I mean, how is it the parents’ fault? My question is, could it be that sexual orientation is largely influenced by the stuff we watch and listen to? The movies, peer pressure, music? Say for example, almost every Kenyan baby who’s hardly able to talk is singing this Okwonkwo song, thanks to Tiktok and Azz.. It’s all fun and games till you listen to the words and y’all wanna blame who? Femi One?
I’d say, let’s talk about these topics y’all keep avoiding. We might not find solutions, or answers… but someone somewhere will know they are not alone.
Also, the fact that Lavender came out and said she’s lesbian, should not send you off running to tell everyone that Lavy is a spoilt brat and that she’s going to hell. I think people are the way they are for a reason. You might not get it, but don’t judge. Ask, get some knowledge and when you decide to speak, do it from a knowledgeable point.
That’s pretty much all I had for today. I really don’t want to speak much on a topic I don’t fully understand. I hope I made my point though. Normalize giving opinions from a point of knowledge and also accepting people the way they are. If you really don’t resonate with a person’s way of life and thinking, let them be. You can’t judge or harass them into being who or what, in your opinion, is “socially acceptable “.
I know 2020 is out here making most of us run on empty. No jobs, no school, constant inability to breathe freely, masks, anxiety and all, some in abusive homes have to stay because, who tf has money to rent an apartment in the middle of a pandemic?? Also, twitter and IG out here making y’all think everyone is prospering the same? The constant feels that time to get your life together is running out😅. Lying in bed and realizing that you are not okay for sure🤧. Some of us are in that I don’t care phase and it’s becoming dangerous 😂. Anyway… listen up lovelies… God’s got us and we’re gonna be fine. I don’t know how or when, but I know that He has a million of ways providing for us, all of which we know nothing of.❤️❤️
SO LIVE, LOVE AND THRIVE DARLING, BECAUSE YOU DESERVE IT ALL.. THE GOOD STUFF❤️❤️❤️
I’m leaving this here because it’s a cute picture and I like it😂😂😂🌚🌚. That’s my reason..I LIKE IT!!! I just had to use it anywhere… in my blog.. Forgive me but I had to😂😂🤦🏽♀️🤦🏽♀️.